From our Parent Seminar...

1. Establish a clear philosophy of training children. The issue is do you exclusively want kids to obey you or do you want them to be responsible?

Two kinds of control
a._____________________
b._____________________

"Anything that kids can do and we do it for them we take away an opportunity for them to learn responsibility"

Control needs of child and adult - Stronger the control needs the greater the need for ______________________

2. Build responsible language. Language is the mediator of ______________________.

. Kids believe what they tell themselves about situations.
Responsibility Finds a ___________ !
Irresponsibility makes ________ !

Concentrate your efforts on What we need from each other! Adults tend to focus on ____________________ from children rather than ____________________from children.

3. Decide what you want to emphasize! Natural and Logical consequences or Solutions and Strategies. Goal is to train kids to make better _________________ !

"Choices are yours to make and live with"

4. Create an environment for creating signs and signals. Kids need ___________________ more than they need to be __________________ !

5. Focus your expectations on _________________ and ________________!

. When you take _________________ away from the family/class you have a responsibility to give _________________back to the family/class

6. Build Integrity by solidifying and keeping your __________________ "Verbalization leads to conceptualization"

7. Resist the three foes that prevent us from becoming responsible !
a. The Rights Mentality
b. The Victim Mentality
c. The Entitlement Mentality
"Every right implies a responsibility"

8. Avoid giving kids "Do your ____________" Messages! Rather guide them through doing a little bit better today than you did yesterday!

"Vagueness is the enemy of Responsibility"

9. Develop a program around responsibility and purpose rather than to wait for irresponsibility to happen!
a. ______________________
b. ______________________
c. ______________________
10. Build relationships with your kids by expressing genuine love to your children. Life is a series of responsibilities lived out in the context of relationships. "All behavior is either an expression of _______________ or a call for ______________ !

"We can do no great things, only small things with great love"
Mother Teresa

© Gene Bedley 1997